Sometime sharing problem makes person weaker.

Every person on this earth face problem in one or more phases of life. Out of many types of problems , some are severe problems like 'Confusion while selecting one of many career  opportunities', 'Confusion when making selection regarding to work in India or to go abroad for higher studies','Struggling for job search at fresher level ','Confusion when making selection of life partner','Financial crisis','Death of beloved one' and many more....

 Many have said that problem sharing is good way to have better solution of problem. I also agree with statement in direction of, when person is in trouble his/her state of mind may not be as much positive as required to put problem aside and think of solution, in such situation, if person share problem with person who has already faced similar kind of problem then troubled person can get better advice and probably solution to his/her problem.

However, there are many problems that sharing of it to irrelevant person makes no sense and makes you weaker. Ideally, when any person share his/her problem to opposite person, he/she expects that opposite person will have solution of that problem. He/She becomes dependent of opposite person. In such case if opposite person can not provide useful solution or opposite person misuse your personal information that you shared with him/her when explaining  your problem creates hurdles for you and subsequently make you weaker.

 If person is facing problem in selecting one of two equally important options available to him/her. And he/she is not in state of mind so that he/she unable to choose one since long time. In such  situation, if that person shares his/her problem to person who is trust-able as well as has some sort of experience regarding that kind of problem then only he/she can find forward way. 

What is Luck..?

There are few statements that we hear very often like, my time has not yet come Or my luck is not accompanying  me Or why am I so unlucky, etc..

Does luck has such meaning ? In fact, If we see, then it's definition gets vary person to person. Some believe luck means some kind of magic that transform one's life in one night. Some believe luck means person achieve something with minimum efforts.

Many time on traffic signal I see a woman with 5-6 month son and begging for money. According to me, Unlucky person is baby with woman  or baby in a family where opportunity of good education is just myth, even he/she hardly get one time of food.  I think that baby is unlucky rather than person who is  part of rich or middle class family and has capability to become something but he/she can not progress just because of his/her limited vision and in wait of good time.

I agree that, life is very mysterious teacher and it's lessons are quite unpredictable. There are some circumstances which are not in our hand. But obviously, every one can be better at having good luck by philosophy of being honest to self and perform which is possible by self and all other to leave on destiny. Everyone of us is here for special purpose and reason which destiny has decided for us. We just need to perform.

In last, I would like to say only one thing that, Instead of spending too much time on words like lucky or unlucky. One can invest same time on philosophy of 'Just do it.'


Disclaimer: These are personal thoughts and views, which may vary with individual's belief and thoughts.

How to study successful People ?

Everyone wants to become successful quickly. But, Success comes with price. In search of ways,  to push my self towards growth, on internet. I find lots of articles and videos suggesting to read stories of successful people. I read those one and many of those gets helpful to me. Though many times I have question that how can one learn any successful person's throughout life learning bad and good experiences which have played magnificent role to architect his/her success.

For me, there is difference between trying to copy any person's success or trying to observe any person's success. One can not develop crystal solid empire or achieve success until he/she has strong values. Values, which determines your speed of progress, which determines your attitude towards life and success, which determines how you want to grab success - fast but short term or slow but long lasting.

One can observe any successful person by, how many skills he/she possess that make him/her different than others, and not by counting his/her material possession like number of properties; no of bank accounts; etc...

To sum up, Personally I believe that, every individual has his/her own path to travel. None can make carbon copy of achievement of any person. Even Sachin Tendulkar's son may not earn title 'Legend of cricket' as like Sachin Tendulkar. Yes but ofcourse he can learn as much as possible values from Sachin and that may push him far better place than Sachin him self.

How to cultivate new habits which seems boring to you ?

Habits play crucial role to define person's reputation as well as character. Habits are of two types good habits and bad habits. Obviously here we are going to talk about good habits.

Good habits ranges from various types starting, from simple habit of doing worship or getting up early to hard one which seems to person important one for life but he/she can not do it, just like spending few hours everyday for strengthening one's self.

Obviously, cultivating new and challenging habits is not so easy. Though one can develop that by investing time and patience. However, while reading book, 'Monk who sold his Ferrari'. I came to know import point in regards of developing new habits. I consider it as Rule No: 21. At first sight, it seems simple. Though it is  very effective. Author says that, if any person do thing, which he/she  desire in his/her life like cultivating new habit, for 21 days without failing any day in between then he or she can have that habit with forever.
This is general assumption, though person's own level of positive attitude and self honesty matters with number of days.


Hope it help someone who truly looking for ways to grow..